Well,
it’s Monday,
one of my days off,
still hot,
but,
I think,
it may be,
breaking:-)
My body is sore,
and my mind,
is restless.
I was reading,
Butch wonder,
I like this blog,
cool, smart,
anyway,
the latest post,
which you can read,
here
http://www.butchwonders.com/1/post/2011/07/open-relationship.html,
poses a question,
about,
open relationships.
I answered the question.
Ten years ago,
my answer would have,
been,
I believe in monogamy,
five years ago,
my answer would have,
been,
I believe in monogamy,
two years ago,
well,
you get the picture,
right?
But,
when I answered,
yesterday,
my answer was,
I’m not sure.
I was raised,
to believe,
in monogamy,
more than that,
I was raised,
to believe,
in,
’til death do us part,
it was never a,
religious thing,
more a,
that’s what people do,
they get married,
and,
then,
they spend,
the rest of their lives,
together,
for better,
for worse,
and there is,
more,
better than worse.
That love is about,
fidelity,
and commitment.
Strange,
that I,
would apply,
such an old-fashioned,
model,
to my own life,
I’ve never been,
married,
and as I’ve written,
here before,
I’m not sure,
what I think,
of marriage,
but,
commitment,
and,
monogamy,
I’ve always believed in,
but,
as I get older,
my vision,
of possible,
relationship,
models,
has evolved.
Love is,
not only,
a many splendored thing,
it may be,
the most complex,
sentiment,
that exists.
So, being in favour,
of monogamy,
is that selfish?
is it reductive?
is it turning away,
from possibilities?
I don’t know.
But, I have seen,
many,
shall we say,
unorthodox ways,
of doing,
and,
they can work.
Would they work,
for me,
the self proclaimed,
old-fashioned butch?
Maybe,
old-fashioned means,
different things,
to different people.
To me I think it,
means,
devoted,
and hopefully,
gentlemanly,
and I wonder,
if that precludes,
an open relationship?
Hmm,
much to think,
about,
and after all,
it is pretty much,
abstract:-)
But,
the question had me thinking.
I wonder,
what do the girls think?
Later girls,
BB
I think it’s something that everyone has to decide for themselves, but for some relationships it almost seems to keep them together more than monogamy ever could. Personally I prefer staying out of any relationship 😛 heh
Footloose and fancy free, huh? 🙂
It depends on what open relationship actually means and how it is defined, and how it is practiced. Is it open relationship as in polyamorous, or is it open relationship as in polygamy?
Often it is interpreted to be simply a sexual thing, as if sex is simple. I think it’s one thing to have different lovers at the same time, and quite another to have simultaneous real relationships. It’s true that different people bring out different aspects, and if people decide that they can have equally fulfilling, deep, honest and equitable relationships with two or more people at the same time, more power to all of them. I’m not convinced that monogamy is natural, but I do believe that there is one above all others, most of the time, even if an eye or thought wanders every now and again. Tis human. 😉
To steal a line from a movie which I love, Kissing Jessica Stein, “I’m going to have to let that marinate” yeah, marinate. Thanks.
BB: Marinate away!!
with this heat, I think, I’m cooking:-)
BB: Hmm.. here’s where meditating helps….. become one with the heat and let it pass through you. It’s quite bad here too.. horrid in fact. take care and stay cool, which of course, being BB you already are..
Aw shucks, thank you, blush