Long Time Coming

Selfie of Catherine and I last August during the Pride festivities

In August of 2020,

I met Catherine,

we had been chatting for a bit,

on a dating website for people over 50,

Silver Singles.

I had been ‘dating’ someone else.

I add the quotation marks because it was a long distance relationship and we never actually met . I liked this person, a lot, she was smart, funny, intense, but it was becoming clear that we didn’t want the same things.

I liked Catherine from the first,

she was calm, centered, smart,

she was/is really funny,

nobody makes me laugh like her.

We went out 4 weeks in a row,

four dates.

Then my mom died,

I was dealing with stuff,

I was grieving,

things were complicated.

I didn’t know if embarking,

on a relationship,

was the way to go.

So, we took a break.

In the meantime,

my other relationship,


I take full responsibility.

I made mistakes.

Mea Culpa.

I took the time to grieve,

my beloved mother.

I took the time,

to figure out what I wanted,

to figure out what I needed.

I didn’t want to repeat,

the same mistakes.

I didn’t want to keep,

sabotaging my relationships,

I wanted to be free,

to love and be loved.

I would occasionally reach out,

to Catherine,

an email, a text.

In May of 2021,

she reached out to me,

She invited me to an art gallery.

I went, I was delighted to go,

I barely cared what the show was.

Catherine asked me on a date!

She was still interested in me.

The rest as they say,

is history.

We are complimentary,

like blue and orange,

green and red.

We don’t really disagree,


I sometimes get a little heated,

in my political opinions etc,

she rarely does.

We aren’t the same,

we are complimentary,

we align.

She makes me laugh,

she exposes me to,

art, to new ideas, to music I have never heard.

She smiles, a lot, she doesn’t take things,

too seriously,

eventhough she is a serious person.

Catherine loves George,

for all his neediness and clingyness.

I thank the universe for her.

It was a long time coming,

it was worth the wait.

Be well you all,

keep enjoying your Summer.

Later girls,


Author: Bookish Butch

I am a bookish butch in my mid early fifties. I live in Montréal and always have. I used to run a small used bookstore. Reading keeps me sane. My latest jiggie is photography, book project in the works, living the dream

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