Hello all, hope the Summer,
has been good to you,
so far.
It's grey and muggy,
here in,
my beautiful ugly.
Today is the first day,
of the long weekend,
here in Quebec,
La St-Jean, la Fete Nationale.
I am hanging out,
drinking tea,
enjoying some solitude.
Have lots of,
social activity ,
coming up,
on the weekend.
Time with friends,
old and new.
This has been,
a week,
of reflection,
introspection,
and frustration.
I just noticed in,
preparing this post,
that it is the 800 Th.
Wow, that ain't nothing.
Been more than seven years,
since I started this blog.
Some people journal,
I blog.
I 'hear' that blogs,
have become,
a little bit,
passe.
Hmm,
I think I may have become,
a little bit,
passe.
I'm fine with that,
truly.
Weird, I keep searching,
for what it is,
I am looking for,
and yet,
I am mostly ok,
with who I am.
I am.
neither young,
nor old.
I have people who love me,
I strive to learn new things,
everyday.
My health is pretty darn good,
and my mind quite sharp.
I have more confidence,
in my abilities,
than I ever have before.
I realize that by,
conventional society,
standards,
I am not very,
successful.
I have no money,
no career,
no car,
no house.
I have no marriage,
I have no children.
I like comfort,
I like exploring for meaning,
I like to spend time with people,
I like to walk,
I like to talk,
a lot
I like to do,
what I want to do.
I have no real ambition,
in a standard sense of the term.
But, I am lucky,
might even say,
blessed.
I have received many,
kindnesses,
in my life,
from loved ones,
and relative strangers.
I have had some difficult,
passages,
and have weathered some,
better than others,
grief is particularly,
challenging,
for me.
As I have gotten older,
I don't bounce back,
quite like I used to-
But, since I am not,
a rubber ball..
That's ok.
I tend to not lie to myself,
about how everything is fine,
anymore.
I face difficulties,
more than I used to,
I know the consequences of burying hurt
sometimes with drama,
and panic,
but, more and more,
with real emotion,
and I hope, reason.
I do trust in the future,
I have faith,
it ebbs and flows,
but,
I really do believe,
in the inherent goodness,
of people.
But, I also find my,
bullshit detector,
to be,
pretty strong.
I appreciate sincerity,
and earnestness so much,
even when it is,
to the point,
of naivete.
I have less and less,
respect for snark and sarcasm.
I have also learned that,
some smiles and honey tones,
hide,
bad things.
and that some of the,
gruffest people are also the,
kindest.
I am who I am.
Neither young,
nor old.
Far from perfect.
Occasionally,
I am shallow, superficial,
unkind, weak,
but,
I work at improving,
and at not beating myself up.
Every day I pray to be kinder,
to be more patient,
with people,
with their foibles,
with me and my...limits.
Last night,
I was watching a,
television show ,
the Big C,
with Laura Linney,
and Oliver Platt.
I love both of them.
At one point,
Platt's character,
Paul,
Linney's husband in the show,
says to their couples therapist,
'she is a a ten and I am a four,
or between a four and a six,
on a good day'.
I loved that,
I feel that way about this stage,
of my life,
it's between a four and a six,
some parts are tens,
some parts are twos,
but, on the whole,
no complaints
:-)
Thank you, all for
being there.
Be well.
Later girls,
BB
Author: Bookish Butch
I am a bookish butch in my mid early fifties. I live in Montréal and always have. I used to run a small used bookstore. Reading keeps me sane. My latest jiggie is photography, book project in the works, living the dream
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