Elements of Butch Style – Bookish Butch

Do clothes really make the …butch?

Hello all, hope you are all,
fine,
in all that the word means,
well, good, refined, of quality,
in other words,
kick ass in all ways.

Woo Hoo

I am well.
In transition, 
flux,
even,
but fine,
still thinking,
jobs,
new and old.
Working on myself,
body and soul.
Doing the workout,
hoping the thyroid issue,
can be dealt with,
which should lead,
to less weight,
fluctuation.
It's steady, 
within,
3-4 pounds,
I monitor.
Of course,
I feel better,
when it's lower,

mostly in my head, 3-4 doesn't affect my wind or stamina:-)

As someone who has spent,
pretty much,
all my adult life,
on the heavier side,
and at times, on the verge of,enormous!
and,
I still am,
big,
by,
chart standards.
But,
I can tell you,
that it feels good,
to have less,
restrictions,
as far as clothes,
are concerned.
more choices.
Not everything I like,
fits,
but,
not everything fits my,
slinky or athletic friends,
either.

I feel good about the fact,
that I can wear,
jeans, that I like,
that look good and are,
in keeping with my style.

Now, to be clear,
I always managed to dress myself,
decently,
in my style,
but, more choices,
is good in,
everything,
even if your defaults,
are jeans and blue,
button down collar oxfords,
or a hoodie.

I have found a few cuts,
in jeans,
and,
manufacturers that I like,
that are flattering and,
comfortable.
American Eagle slim straight,
and, Gap, straight,
both have some stretch,
move with you,
but look good,
fit is important,
having jeans that fit,
well,
it's suit of armor stuff,
that and boots,
and,
a good jacket,
you're golden.

I know a lot of purists,
don't approve of stretch,
jeans, chinos,
anything,
one lifestyle blogger,
who I really enjoy,
I even listen to his podcasts,
he's smart and funny and,
opinionated,
and, 
has impeccable style.
He refers to stretch in jeans,
as: stretch-the-high-fructose-corn-syrup-of-menswear
see georgehanh.com

I see his point,
but,
the thing is,
I like the little bit,
of stretch,
I like being comfortable,
and,
having my legs and butt,
advantaged,
but,
mostly I like being able,
to walk and sit and squat,
without the fear of splitting,
my pants.

These aren't ugly jeans,
these pass any,
casual urban butch,
test,
nice blue jeans that fit.
It doesn't,
for me,
get any better than that.

I have always cared about attire,
and,
yes, 
anyone who has ever spent time,
with me and mirrors,
glass doors,
etc,
knows,
I'm vain and I primp,
evidence?
selfies on facebook and instagram:-)

My style isn't in the least,
peacock,
it's classic urban sportswear,
not leisure, not hip hop,
Gap, L.L Bean and jeans,
dressed up is chinos (khakis)
dessert boots, vans, chelseas,
urban sporty.

Lately when people comment,
on my clothes,
the word that comes up,
most is comfortable.
I don't think that's bad,
I think comfortable means,
attainable, friendly,
not struck up,
I hope it doesn't mean,
sloppy but,
I doubt it,
I'm not,
attire wise.

I spend time,
I make an effort,
to shop for,
choose and put together,
my wardrobe,
I am aiming for comfort,
for my own stamp,
to not look like everyone else,
to look like me.

I have never been one,
to think appearances aren't,
important,
it goes without saying that,
character, honour,
intellect and a good heart,
are more important,
but,
if I can project,
comfortable,
I'll take it

I don't believe in societal norms,
of femininity or masculinity,
but,
to me the clothes I wear are important,
and,
I appreciate a sense of style,
no matter,
what that may be.

Herein endeth,
the ramble

Be well you all.
Later girls,
BB

Having fun and looking fly, that’s what I’m talking about

Hello all, hope you are enjoying,
your Summer,
staying cool, looking fly,

I have started thinking of 2016,
as the Summer of shorts,
not to preach,
I wouldn't do that,
but,
if you live in a hot muggy climate,
liberate your knees,
wear some shorts.
Here one of my favourite menswear websites,
Valet.com makes the case,
http://www.valetmag.com/style/products/2016/making-the-case-for-wearing-shorts-072116.php
Can't get the link to work but, if you go to Valet.com,
you can find the article.
personally I think they could have added,
the Flex Shorts from American Eagle Outfitters,
all of my shorts, except one pair, are the flex shorts,

and no,
no one is paying me for this,
I offer it up to my fellow butches,
and some dapper guys as an awesome,
option.

It's also been,
the Summer of getting out,
and seeing some live music,
enjoying part of,
all that,
the beautiful ugly has to offer.
Summer in Montreal,
festival time,
Baby:-)
Jazz Festival,
Just For Laughs,
Nuits D'afrique,
Francopholie,
Highland Games,
Under Pressure,
and so much more.
For every body,
for every demographic,
for every proclivity,
for young and old,
for hip, for square.

I loved my visit to the,
Jazz Fest,
this year,
went to see,
Betty Bonifassi,
I enjoy her music,
with a newish friend,
who's company I much enjoy,
and,
then there was a free show,
by a local funk band,
The Brooks,
they did an homage to,
Prince,
it was the bomb,
I danced and danced,
it felt like I was,
hanging with my tribe.
I knew all the words,
lots of people my age,
it was a night to remember.

This weekend,
it was Nuits D'afrique,
some free Reggae and African beats,
hung out with my best pal,
and, my girl,
it kept raining,
and,
I wasn't nearly as keen on the rain,
or the music as my girl was,
but, the food was good,
and,
I enjoyed Lorrraine Klassen,
but, mostly,
my girl was so happy,
it made me happy,
sore feet,
are really not the end of the world.

This coming weekend,
Absolutely Fabulous,
with another,
newish friend,
and on Sunday,
The Highland Games with mom,
and,
maybe Renaud and Helene,
lots to look forward to,
and,
if I was a betting butch,
I would say there will be
shorts,
involved

Have a fun, you all,
chill,
leave the deep thoughts aside,
frolic and rest,
plenty of time for deep thoughts,
in the ...Fall

Later girls,
BB

p.s. if you want to see pics of me in my shorts and other things follow me on Instagram, bookish butch

I like to call it…

Hello you all,
hope you are well,
still enjoying the,
Summer.

I am doing well,
will soon be visiting,
with my lady,
briefly,
but briefly with her,
is more than weeks,
with others,
quality time,
don't ya know:-)

Last night we,
were chatting,
me and my girl,
and,
we were talking,
attire.

Some of you,
more recent readers,
may not know this,
about me,
but,
I am a menswear fashion blog,
freak.
I love the blogs,
the websites.

This isn't recent,
it used to be,
GQ and Esquire,
it has become,
Dappered, Primer, Fashion Beans,
I follow people,
brands,
on Instagram,
on Pinterest,

They change,
they stop,
publishing,
their focus changes,
etc.
I am not interested in,
tailoring,
I am not that kind of,
butch,
not that there is anything wrong,
with that:-)
I am more casual,
classic butch sportswear,
with a bit of the work wear vibe.
I love flannel, button downs,
t-shirts and boots,
vans and shorts,
baseball caps and flat caps.

My style evolves,
but,
it also remains,
true,
to blue oxford shirts and chinos,
as the epitome of look, of style.

I spend hours,
reading, perusing, shopping,
watching videos.
I enjoy shopping more,
now that I am slimmer,
but,
I always loved it.

Some might call this,
a waste of time,
a hobby,
a vapid pursuit,
I like to think of it,
as,
part of the,
building a better butch motif,
and,
research

Be well, you all,
keep your tongues,
firmly planted in your cheeks.

Later girls,
BB

Make up? I like to think of it as …

Hello you all,

it’s been a while,

hope you are all,

in tip top shape.

I’m feeling good,

it’s the Fall,

got a haircut,

a new jacket,

that fits, perfectly.

For years,

I bought clothes that,

were too big,

too long,

I had to compensate for my,

girth.

Even after,

I lost weight,

I was still big in the gut,

because of the alien.

The girth is less,

the alien is gone,

and,

for the first time,

in a long time,

I can buy clothes,

that look the way,

I want them to look.

I could still do with some,

loss around the middle,

what is it the exercise types call it? strengthening your core:-)

but for the most part,

I am happy,

with the way things are,

evolving,

a work in progress,

taking care of,

and,

loving my body,

building a better butch.

The other day,

I was looking at a selfie,

taken last Fall,

I take a lot of selfies, for many reasons, documenting my life, practising photography, vanity, etc:-)

and,

I noticed,

that I looked,

different,

in good ways,

the slimmer thing is good,

but, also,

older.

A few signs of aging have appeared,

it’s normal,

I’m fifty.

I don’t mind the grey in my hair,

actually,

I like it,

no plans to dye it,

I won’t say never,

you never know but,

highly unlikely.

But,

puffy eyes?

a brown spot on my cheek?

Yeah,

I can live without those.

I have always been,

no nonsense in my,

ablutions,

routine.

Shower,

wash my hair,

a little cologne,

in recent years,

a little bit of hair product,

to prevent hat hair.

I wear caps: baseball, flat caps and beanies, I even have a fedora, they mess up your hair, you need product

But, moisturizer?

make-up?

I never needed that,

and with middle age,

now,

I do,

is it make up?

not really,

but,

it is,

about concealing,

the tiny flaws,

and putting a face,

I prefer,

forward.

Less for others,

than for me.

I’m vain,

and proud.

I don’t look twenty,

I don’t look thirty,

I am not even aiming,

for,

forty,

I just like to see the me,

I like,

reflected back at me.

If that makes any sense?

I’m not made up,

I’m ….

hiding

😛

Be well,

you all.

Later girls,

A butch and her boots

Winner GLBT category

Well I did it,

I bought my new boots.

🙂

Couldn’t be happier.

Awesome service,

from the young man,

at what I feared,

would be,

a hipster central,

in the Plateau Mont-Royal,

neighbourhood,

in Montreal.

I went there, despite my anticipated qualms, because they had the best selection in town and since it is a very cool and young neighbourhood, they sell lots, Blunnies are in with the hip crowd.

I am neither,

young,

nor hip,

but,

the young man,

knew I was a,

Blundstone,

aficionado,

I was wearing my chisel toes,

after all.

He asked me some questions,

on the finish and patina,

and,

he was bright enough to know,

it was an easy sale,

but,

he was genuinely interested,

and,

took off 20 percent,

without me asking,

for anything,

needless to say,

I will go back.

After looking them over,

for a few minutes,

I went with the crazy horse brown,

with the regular black sole,

didn’t like the look,

of the pale sole,

in person,

very happy with the choice,

I made.

Some might find it silly,

to attach such,

importance,

to a pair of boots,

to me,

they just,

may be,

the most important,

element,

of my butch style.

They ground me,

I feel safe and strong,

when I wear,

them.

I am comfortable,

I don’t worry about,

cracks in the sidewalk,

or stepping off curbs,

they are my armour,

they protect one of,

the most vulnerable,

parts of me.

I like the look,

I like the comfort,

I like that I don’t need to tie,

them.

Pull on,

easy to remove.

When I found,

Blundstones,

six years ago,

I found a perfect fit.

I know some people,

say,

they aren’t as good,

as they used to be,

to which I say,

So what???

How many boots do you have,

that can withstand ,

being worn,

everyday for,

eighteen months,

and,

then three times a week,

for another,

four years,

all for under,

$200?

I would wager,

not many.

But,

the fact is these are mine,

I found them,

and,

I am keeping them.

The journey in my boots,

continues.

Later girls,

Assembling the Fall butch wardrobe

Winner of GLBT Category

Hello you all.

Hope you are all feeling ship shape.

I am in a pretty good mood,

it’s a little hotter,

than I enjoy but,

the Fall is a coming,

Happy dance

🙂

The tax man,

in his infinite wisdom,

has sent me a return,

so after,

paying off a few debts,

I will be assembling,

the missing elements,

of my Fall and Winter,

butch wardrobe.

My shirts are all too big,

and,

I have no decent flannel,

to speak off,

this qualifies,

as a mini crisis.

I have looked and looked,

you find,

cheap made in China,

in awful colours,

or,

hipster tight,

in bad design at big prices,

crap or ugly,

I enjoy neither,

you know who,

still makes the best flannel shirt,

at a fair price?

L.L Bean.

I have one left in my closet,

much too big,

worn 3 Winters,

still looks new,

but,

it balloons,

so,

some lucky person,

is going to inherit this shirt,

and,

I am going to order,

2 new ones.

I like the Freeport flannel style best,

but,

there is only one colour I like,

Mariner blue,

blue, red and white,

two pockets,

regular collar,

I wish they also made this,

in Black Watch,

but,

they don’t,

so I will also order,

a Scotch Plaid in Black Watch,

one pocket,

button down collar,

which I don’t like as much,

with flannel,

but,

still,

should be good,

for at least 5 years in the flannel,

department.

Toasty warm,

but,

breathable,

perfect for our cold damp,

climate.

I also need boots,

my first pair of Blundstones,

is going on six years,

still good,

the originals,

but,

I intend to wear them as my,

beater Winter pair.

I love the look of,

the chisel toe,

Crazy Horse Browns,

that are the second pair I bought,

but,

the soles,

just aren’t as thick,

or resistant,

not good,

in slippery wet conditions,

and,

Fall,

in the beautiful ugly,

is all about slippery and wet.

So I have looked and looked,

if budget was no option,

perhaps,

I would buy a pair of Red Wings,

but,

$400-$500 dollars,

I cannot afford for boots,

or anything else for that matter:-)

so,

Blundstones,

it is,

dollar for dollar,

at a little over $200 cdn,including our whopping Quebec sales tax,

are a good buy.

I like the way,

they look,

I like how comfy they are,

they are an essential element,

of my butch style,

I really wanted suede,

but,

it isn’t practical,

so I am going with,

the nubuck,

in crazy horse brown,

with the new two tone,

soles.

Add a new black hoodie,

and,

my Fall Winter wardrobe,

has no more holes.

I intend to spend lots,

of time outdoors,

in the Fall,

and,

even Winter,

lots of photographs to be taken,

and,

fresh air to counter,

all the time,

spent in front of the computer screen,

so,

I need my versatile,

butch wardrobe.

Since,

I work,

part time,

in a casual environment,

I don’t need anything too dressy,

and,

what I do need,

I have.

There comes a time,

in your life,

where,

you know,

what you like,

what fits your style,

your personality,

and,

also,

your lifestyle,

jeans,

boots,

flannel,

ball caps,

for everyday,

oxford button down and khakis for fancy,

for me,

there is nothing else

it is my version,

of butch,

with my twists,

practically a uniform,

and,

yet,

so far removed from one.

Odd to be thinking of flannel,

and,

boots,

30 degrees celsius.

Be well.

Later girls,

Shades and Levis, the return of elements of butch style

Winner of GLBT category

For years,

I owned but didn’t wear,

shades.

I had a pair of Ray Bans,

which I have misplaced,

and,

about 12-13 years ago,

I got these boss,

Armani shades.

I loved them,

but,

they were a tad small,

for my moon face,

and,

since,

I am blind as a bat,

without my lenses,

I found carrying them around,

cumbersome,

so they were usually,

in their case,

in the chest of drawers,

Fast forward a few years,

the sun is stronger and stronger,

here in the beautiful ugly,

and,

just as I have given in,

to moisturiser and sun screen,

I dusted off the shades.

I wear and carry them around,

in my leather messenger bag,

all the time.

I like how they look,

cool and sleekly sophisticated,

but,

I have discovered a few other things,

I vastly enjoy about them,

of course,

number one,

eye protection and clear vision,

a truly beautiful thing.

🙂

Also,

well,

nobody sees the annoyed eye roll,

when wearing your shades,

you look people over without being obvious,

they are invaluable in observing people,

also,

shhh,

checking out girls,

This is purely a looking thing, BB is spoken for, and my heart is true

Yep,

I’m liking the shades,

one of my butch icons,

extraordinaire,

would not be caught dead without his shades,

see the resemblance??

this pic was taken on Easter weekend, Starbuck’s in the Village by my talented friend(photographer, writer, filmmaker) Christos Tsirbas, check him out at http://seetsirbas.com or http://evil-genius.ca

Ah the magic of photography,

he managed to make me look,

younger, slimmer and yeah,

a little more badass:-)

Point is,

shades are,

an essential element of butch style.

Wear what works for you,

what makes you feel suave,

and,

able to leap tall buildings,

you can go,

weird and eclectic,

but,

please don’t-

I implore you,

do that ironic hipster thing,

that’s just annoying and for kids

😛

One of the reasons,

I can wear these,

again,

my moon face is more,

chiseled,

a result of clean living, don’t you know, well, cleaner and leaner

Operation leaner better butch,

goes on,

a major work in progress,

I don’t mean it’s hard,

I mean it’s a baby steps thing.

The gut and everything else,

have shrunk,

the gut is still bigger than I would like but, I’m getting there.

Which leads me to another,

element of butch style past,

Levis,

three weeks ago,

I was shopping with my girl,

at Costco,

and,

they had Levis 514’s,

in my size on sale for $30,

score!!

You can’t try things on at Costco,

you have to know your size,

and,

go on faith,

they fit perfectly

🙂

A slim not skinny fit,

magic.

For years,

I wore boot cut,

wide jeans,

cheaper fat chick brands,

a combination of bad body image,

and,

small budget.

I’m so glad to wear my Levis,

again,

they aren’t 501’s,

I’m not twenty

but,

they make me feel good,

sexy,

butch,

and,

like I have rejoined the land of the slimmer.

I don’t aspire to a twinkie size,

I just like,

feeling better,

in my body,

when looking in the mirror,

and,

having more shopping options.

It’s mostly about loving myself,

and,

feeling swaggeringly,

butch.

Call me shallow,

if you must,

but,

it’s my life,

and I think,

feeling better and looking better,

in my eyes,

is important.

Later girls,

600 words for Number 600!!!

Yep,

this is my 600 blog post,

wow,

quite the milestone

🙂

I have been writing this blog,

since March of 2010.

More than three years.

The first few months it was,

once to three times,

a month,

and around,

September of that year,

it became,

three to five times a week.

I liked doing it,

more and more.

It has evolved,

both grown and shrunk,

it is my baby,

my journal,

and,

yes,

a part of my life.

Sometimes,

I am proud of it,

sometimes,

it makes me feel,

nudely vulnerable,

I sometimes,

think,

I have nothing left,

to say,

but,

I keep at it,

I am,

compelled to,

write it nonetheless.

Sometimes,

I believe it may have been,

insightful,

other times,

I know it has been,

whinny,

bookish butch,

still,

after three,

years-

is me,

and not,

me,

both.

For this milestone,

I have selected a blog post,

from the first year,

entitled,

On Being Butch,

it’s still,

one of my favourites,

may not be amongst,

my best,

if we can use such terminlogy,

in this format,

but,

I like it,

still.

I’d like to know,

what some of you think,

so here goes:

On Being Butch May 21 2010

This morning, I have been thinking about being butch and what it means.

I often experience strange reactions from people, mostly straight women, when I refer to myself as butch. It seems some of them think that I am putting myself down when I describe myself as butch, and try to tell me

“You’re not so butch”

To which I reply

Of course I am.

Being butch, is not a badge of honour nor is it a source of embarrassment, it is what I am.

I have always seen a butch as a gentlemanly woman.

I use gentleman because I can think of no feminine equivalent.

I like the word butch. I like the word queer. I like the word dyke.

I believe they empower.

I use them.

My friends use them.

Butch is not about macho or aggressivity.

It’s about style and philosophy.

It’s about a code of conduct the unwritten,

Book of Butch

A butch acts in certain ways,

with class,

with strength,

with dignity.

She treats women well, always.

She accepts no for an answer, even if it pisses her off.

Butches are romantic, send flowers, remember birthdays.

They rarely dye their hair. They usually wear boots.

They like to appear stoic. Think Gary Cooper.

Yep, Nope.

They would all like to be handy alas, some of them,

( us) are bookish and hire other butches or even,

men to renovate.

They like to think of themselves as the most considerate and accomplished of lovers.

Butches have illusions about themselves like everyone else.

It’s fun, it’s silly, it’s serious.

I like the aesthetics of butch.

All of this is my interpretation and how I see it. Your version might differ and that’s fine.

I just wanted to let you in on some of my thoughts on the subject.

later

*************************************************************

some things,

have changed,

the pacing,

the sign off,

some things,

have remained,

consistent.

I still like doing it,

it gives me pleasure,

and,

pushes me,

it remains very much,

my voice,

virtual or not.

I think for the next,

little while,

I will publish,

a post from the past,

and,

see if they stand up,

some will,

some won’t,

but,

it will be fun,

to see.

Thank you,

my readers for sharing,

this experience with me,

I write this blog,

for me,

but,

also,

more than a little,

for you all.

a big virtual butchy hug,

later girls,

A butch and her khakis??

We’ve been having some,

rainy weather,

but,

the rest of the week’s,

weather forecast is hot,

rain and hot,

tomorrow,

hot and hot,

Thursday,

hotter and humid,

Friday,

and,

Saturday,

sigh

I loathe,

hot and humid,

but,

ready or not,

here,

it comes.

The Spring has been,

rainy,

and,

cool,

and,

although,

sun,

is nice,

I prefer the cool.

Inevitably,

in Montreal,

it gets hot,

and,

humid,

so this year,

since,

Old Navy seems,

to have had only,

one pair of my new fav,

jeans,

in my size,

I have invested in Khakis,

or if you prefer,

chinos.

I bought a pair to wear,

to my cousin’s wedding,

in a somber grey,

and today,

I got another pair in,

a gorgeous British tan,

colour.

I will sooner,

than later,

be looking for a job,

and,

khakis make a better,

impression,

than jeans,

so this butch is going,

khakis

🙂

I had forgotten,

how soft and comfy,

they can be.

They look slightly,

dressier and can easily,

be integrated into,

a butch rotation.

Once you’ve washed,

them a few times,

they are just as,

easy maintenance,

as jeans,

throw ’em in the washer,

dry them on the clothesline,

and,

voila.

I’d rather not have,

to dress as if I lived,

in the tropics,

I’m a sweater and boots,

kind of butch,

but,

hey,

when in the amazon,

dress as the amazonians

or is that,

amazons??

😛

I am reading a wonderful,

novel,

my friend,

the librarian,

lent me,

The Last Nude by Ellis Avery.

It is the story,

of the artist,

Tamara De Lempicka,

and,

one of her model lovers,

Has everything I like,

Paris,

the 20’s,

and,

lesbians,

yum

🙂

My friend,

the anarchist,

and, I,

visited,

Montreal’s Anarchist Book Fair,

on Sunday,

a lovely time.

While there,

I picked up,

a copy of,

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation.

Not sure what I’ll think of it,

but,

I need to expand my horizons,

don’t know much,

about transgender,

and,

I feel,

I should.

So I’ll give this a go.

Don’t think I’ll read it right away,

I’ll finish,

the Avery,

and,

then I want to re-read a favourite,

Parnassus On Wheels,

and,

The Haunted Bookshop,

a one volume edition,

delightful,

book,

about loving,

and,

selling,

books.

Should help in my,

transition time.

Today,

mom and I visited the library,

she got herself,

a few,

mysteries,

and,

I picked up,

a Jack London,

I’ve never read and been,

wanting to for years,

The Iron Heel.

Critics,

seem to think,

London’s,

Heel is not only,

a better novel,

than Orwell’s,

1984,

but,

also,

that it has turned out,

to be more prophetic.

Interesting.

As you can see,

I’ve got lots to read,

and I’ve got,

some catching up to do

🙂

What have you all been reading?

any of you,

read any of the aforementioned,

titles?

You all worried about,

the oncoming heat?

Be well.

Later girls,

keep cool,

Some thoughts on suits and ties

It’s grey out,

but,

thankfully,

the muggy is giving us,

a respite.

I finished the Bear Bergman book,

and,

I found many things,

that resonated with me,

about being butch.

I have to say,

I don’t encounter,

a lot,

of aggression,

and,

opposition to my,

butchness,

I get the occasional,

‘Sir’,

especially,

when I am wearing,

a baseball cap:-)

but,

as a rule

it’s cool,

perhaps,

it’s where I live,

perhaps,

it’s my ‘not’ tallness,

perhaps,

it’s inherent,

friendliness and discretion,

on my part.

I’m not an in your face kind of person,

perhaps,

it’s luck,

I don’t know.

I think Montreal for all it’s faults,

is quite,

cosmopolitan,

and,

accepting of outward,

diversity,

but,

my time in Toronto,

was just as relaxed,

people see me as butch,

I think,

but,

not as a challenge,

to gender,

which is fine.

My objective isn’t to challenge,

just to be,

me.

which in an age of conformity can be seen as a challenge, I guess.

I do,

however,

realise,

that if my butchness,

expressed itself,

less sporty urban,

and,

more suit and tie,

and,

if I was taller,

and,

my shoulders broader,

as many a butch,

I would be considered,

more challenging.

As it is,

men,

tend to see me,

as one of the guys,

and,

also a woman,

they can talk to,

about their emotions.

Not sure if that’s a butch thing,

or just a me thing.

All this to say,

my public butch,

isn’t really a problem for me,

and,

only is with your more,

Neanderthal segment,

of the male population,

which I tend to avoid,

and,

manage through,

not sure I would if I wore,

suits and ties,

but,

I don’t like suits and ties,

for me,

anyway,

so I manage.

Butch wonder had,

an interesting post,

on how the gayness,

is often less an issue,

than the challenge to perceived,

masculine/feminine territory,

especially in the realm of dress.

I think that’s a valid point.

Boots and jeans,

men’s shirts,

even baseball caps,

are barely given a second look,

but,

suits and ties,

well,

you stand out,

you rock the boat,

which I think,

is fine,

and,

necessary,

but,

also,

that it holds,

such importance,

and,

is seen as defiance

by society,

disturbs me,

if you feel more,

you,

in a suit,

as a woman,

a butch,

why not,

shouldn’t people be allowed to be,

who they want to be?

I don’t think,

more,

or less,

of people,

men, women,

people who don’t use,

gender identification,

because of how they dress.

I like a sharp outfit,

I like a pair of jeans,

or a skirt to enhance,

the human form,

I appreciate,

neat,

clean,

sweet smelling,

a sense of style,

expressed in people’s own,

unique interpretation.

I like people to enjoy,

what I’m wearing,

to see it as an extention,

of me.

I want my sweetheart,

to think,

I look good,

sexy.

I like to challenge society’s perceptions,

about feminine,

about the neatly packaged,

never stopped to consider,

acceptable.

I like to push people’s boundaries,

that not all of us,

are the same,

or want to be.

I just think I’m a nudger,

more than a pusher.

But, I’ll tell you,

I love pushers,

I love suits and ties,

worn by those,

who ‘shouldn’t’ wear them,

I love a gender outlaw.

I’m just more marginal,

than outlaw.

🙂

I think if you want some insight,

into,

butchness,

you should definetly pick up,

Butch Is A Noun.

It has wisdom,

insight,

and stuff,

you,

will,

and,

won’t,

agree with,

but,

it will definetely,

add texture,

to your vision of butch.

Just rambling,

but,

why don’t you all tell me,

what you,

think.

Later girls,