Some thoughts on suits and ties

It’s grey out,

but,

thankfully,

the muggy is giving us,

a respite.

I finished the Bear Bergman book,

and,

I found many things,

that resonated with me,

about being butch.

I have to say,

I don’t encounter,

a lot,

of aggression,

and,

opposition to my,

butchness,

I get the occasional,

‘Sir’,

especially,

when I am wearing,

a baseball cap:-)

but,

as a rule

it’s cool,

perhaps,

it’s where I live,

perhaps,

it’s my ‘not’ tallness,

perhaps,

it’s inherent,

friendliness and discretion,

on my part.

I’m not an in your face kind of person,

perhaps,

it’s luck,

I don’t know.

I think Montreal for all it’s faults,

is quite,

cosmopolitan,

and,

accepting of outward,

diversity,

but,

my time in Toronto,

was just as relaxed,

people see me as butch,

I think,

but,

not as a challenge,

to gender,

which is fine.

My objective isn’t to challenge,

just to be,

me.

which in an age of conformity can be seen as a challenge, I guess.

I do,

however,

realise,

that if my butchness,

expressed itself,

less sporty urban,

and,

more suit and tie,

and,

if I was taller,

and,

my shoulders broader,

as many a butch,

I would be considered,

more challenging.

As it is,

men,

tend to see me,

as one of the guys,

and,

also a woman,

they can talk to,

about their emotions.

Not sure if that’s a butch thing,

or just a me thing.

All this to say,

my public butch,

isn’t really a problem for me,

and,

only is with your more,

Neanderthal segment,

of the male population,

which I tend to avoid,

and,

manage through,

not sure I would if I wore,

suits and ties,

but,

I don’t like suits and ties,

for me,

anyway,

so I manage.

Butch wonder had,

an interesting post,

on how the gayness,

is often less an issue,

than the challenge to perceived,

masculine/feminine territory,

especially in the realm of dress.

I think that’s a valid point.

Boots and jeans,

men’s shirts,

even baseball caps,

are barely given a second look,

but,

suits and ties,

well,

you stand out,

you rock the boat,

which I think,

is fine,

and,

necessary,

but,

also,

that it holds,

such importance,

and,

is seen as defiance

by society,

disturbs me,

if you feel more,

you,

in a suit,

as a woman,

a butch,

why not,

shouldn’t people be allowed to be,

who they want to be?

I don’t think,

more,

or less,

of people,

men, women,

people who don’t use,

gender identification,

because of how they dress.

I like a sharp outfit,

I like a pair of jeans,

or a skirt to enhance,

the human form,

I appreciate,

neat,

clean,

sweet smelling,

a sense of style,

expressed in people’s own,

unique interpretation.

I like people to enjoy,

what I’m wearing,

to see it as an extention,

of me.

I want my sweetheart,

to think,

I look good,

sexy.

I like to challenge society’s perceptions,

about feminine,

about the neatly packaged,

never stopped to consider,

acceptable.

I like to push people’s boundaries,

that not all of us,

are the same,

or want to be.

I just think I’m a nudger,

more than a pusher.

But, I’ll tell you,

I love pushers,

I love suits and ties,

worn by those,

who ‘shouldn’t’ wear them,

I love a gender outlaw.

I’m just more marginal,

than outlaw.

đŸ™‚

I think if you want some insight,

into,

butchness,

you should definetly pick up,

Butch Is A Noun.

It has wisdom,

insight,

and stuff,

you,

will,

and,

won’t,

agree with,

but,

it will definetely,

add texture,

to your vision of butch.

Just rambling,

but,

why don’t you all tell me,

what you,

think.

Later girls,

BB

 

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Bookish Butch

I am a bookish butch in my very early fifties. I live in Montréal and always have. I used to run a small used bookstore. Reading keeps me sane. My latest jiggie is photography, book project in the works, living the dream

2 thoughts on “Some thoughts on suits and ties”

  1. BB: Thank goodness there are people like you who push the boundaries, who nudge. Keep being your wonderful, bespoke self, and conquer the world in your very own way. Speaking of which: hope all’s well with you in all of your worlds. I’d have visited sooner, but for the past I can’t get to your site for some reason: either your site doesn’t like my computer, or doesn’t like safari. Take good care!

  2. Hello:-) Thanks for the compliment but, I am hardly bespoke:-P
    Sorry you’ve had problems getting on the blog, I’m looking into it.
    So nice to hear from you, enjoy the pretty weather.

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