Going to a wedding

It’s grey again,

seems to be,

the theme,

of the week.

I am trying to,

tame my time,

so to speak,

learn to revel,

in my time,

before the business of earning a living,

rears it’s head,

again.

I’m not great at time off,

but,

I’m working on it.

There is always lots,

to do,

chores and errands,

and,

such,

and,

ways to keep busy,

but,

not having a routine,

is a challenge,

well, to me, it is 🙂

I think I have all I need,

Summer wardrobe wise,

which is good,

you’ve got to be prepared,

for when the heat,

hits,

and,

hit it will,

sigh

I have a busy social,

weekend,

again,

which is great.

On Saturday,

my cousin,

is getting married,

she and her guy,

have been,

living in sin

😛

for fourteen years,

they have,

four beautiful children,

they are tying the knot,

A) because they always wanted to

B) because you need legal protection,

when you have so many kids,

it’s the responsible thing to do,

if you can and want to.

Mostly,

I think it’s about,

standing in front,

of the world,

and,

saying,

“I love this man/woman and want to spend the rest of my life with them”

is that old-fashioned?

of course it is!

Is it romantically optimistic?

Of course it is!

Is it the right thing for everyone?

Nope, I don’t think so.

I’ve always been in favour,

of marriage,

I come from a long line,

of marrieds.

For the longest time,

I couldn’t,

as a gay member of society,

aspire to it,

but,

since I am a Canadian,

I now can,

and,

have been able to,

for quite some time,

2005 to be exact, that’s when the Canadian House of Commons passed a bill, making marriage between 2 individuals of the same sex legal and equal before the law to opposite sex marriage, no hyphen or legal difference, marriage not same-sex marriage, marriage.

Funny,

not sure,

I would get married

I just don’t want,

anybody,

especially,

not the state,

telling me I can’t.

Do I think,

non-married long term relationships,

can be as loving and bonding?

Yep, I do.

Do I think they can be as messed up and dysfunctional?

Yep, I do.

Do I think it’s realistic,

to pledge eternal love,

when the life expectancy,

is as long as it is?

and the world as complex as it is?

Maybe not,

but,

do I like the optimism and, romanticism?

Yeah, I do.

I believe,

in life,

you keep a B plan,

in your back pocket,

(and then promptly put it out of your mind)

but,

dream of the best,

build a fort against storms,

you give it everything you’ve got,

you work hard,

talk,

love,

and,

if you realise,

you’ve made a mistake,

you cut your loses,

with the least amount of acrimony,

possible.

It is a fine line,

between,

giving up,

and,

moving on?

Oh yeah, it sure is.

Not always easy,

actually make that, never easy,

but,

a combination of reasoned logic,

and,

cockeyed optimism,

will get you through,

that,

and,

crossed fingers

😛

Love,

is a many splendored thing,

if at the end of the day,

we don’t believe,

in it’s possibilities,

it’s nurturing,

it’s salvation,

it’s grace,

what’s the point??

But, hey, what do I know???

Be well.

Later girls,

BB

 

 

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Bookish Butch

I am a bookish butch in my very early fifties. I live in Montréal and always have. I used to run a small used bookstore. Reading keeps me sane. My latest jiggie is photography, book project in the works, living the dream

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