Of 4 th of July and marriage

Today is the 4 Th of July,

Happy Birthday,

to all my American friends:-)

The 4 Th of July,

is a day,

I’m found of,

for many reasons.

My beloved Grandmaman’s,

birthday,

was the fourth of July,

my grandpa,

used to make these,

silly jokes,

about her being an American.

Strictly speaking,

she was,

and,

I am,

we do live,

on the American continent,

after all:-)

I’ve had,

lots of things,

swirling in my mind,

lately.

Many of them,

have to do,

with love,

family,

marriage.

It might have,

something to do,

with the recent decisions,

of both New York State,

and,

Rhode Island,

to make gay marriage legal.

In Canada,

since,

2005,

marriage,

is marriage,

no distinction,

same sex,

heterosexual,

the same,

well,

in the eyes,

of the law,

anyway.

Same sex marriage,

was never a fight,

of mine,

maybe, that’s because, I’m a dreamer/lover more than a fighter, I don’t know:-)

I believe in marriage,

I come from a long line,

of marrieds,

I just never thought,

it might apply to me,

in 2005,

I was forty,

yikes!!

Also, I’m not,

religious,

so this standing up,

before God and man,

thing,

didn’t work,

either,

but,

in the past few months,

I have given,

more thought,

to the idea of,

and,

the possibility of,

marriage.

For some people,

it’s about legitimacy,

recognising,

that their unions,

are just,

as valid,

legitimate,

as those of their,

heterosexual brothers and sisters,

of course, they are, it’s not about law

for others,

it’s a basic human right question,

and there are those,

who think,

marriage is a false,

construct,

a relic,

of a bygone era.

I don’t see it as,

either,

or.

But, I like the idea,

of standing in front,

of friends,

and,

family,

and saying,

“You see this woman, I love her and I would like to spend the rest of my life, attempting to show her just, how true, that is,”

Well, I’d probably write better vows, but, you get the gist right?

so I guess,

that means,

I believe in marriage.

I’ve always been,

too romantic,

for my own good.

I thought writing,

about these,

questions,

and recent,

landmark decisions,

would clarify my thoughts,

uh huh,

not really,

the muddled butch,

that’s me.

What do you all think?

Later girls,

BB

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Bookish Butch

I am a bookish butch in my very early fifties. I live in Montréal and always have. I used to run a small used bookstore. Reading keeps me sane. My latest jiggie is photography, book project in the works, living the dream

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